one of the worst genres of tumblr post is โattempt at thoughtful emotional prose from a person who has read nothing but fanfic since they graduated from high schoolโ
Most reblog iterations of a popular post of mine have a long comment about how considering “queer” a slur is a terf psy op. They’re not arguing with me btw, just using the point I made as a starting point and adding some points of their own. I sort of understand where they’re coming from but I really cannot cosign. I grew up in rural Indiana. The inconvenient truth of the matter is that the people who view queer as a slur usually have understandable reasons to do so, and experiences are subjective. If you’re response to that is “so is gay, but you put up with that anyway,” I’m just going to assume we have vastly different upbringings. Where I grew up in the early 2000s, “gay” meant “your shoes look stupid” and “queer,” outside of academic circles, meant “I want to hurt you.” I always found it ironic that the response to these nuances from the trigger-warning-using, “your trauma is valid” crowd is a resounding “get over it, snowflake.” I do use the term these days, but in my own case I prefer “gay” because it feels more unequivocal and, oddly enough, more queer. Now, the people marching with signs that say “GAY NOT QUEER” are terfs and other unsavory types, but to the extent to which it is a terf psy op, it wasn’t a plot cooked up from scratch but a matter of taking advantage of very real pain that a lot of people feel.
โMy thesis is that at many levels of human interaction there is the opportunity to conflate discomfort with threat, to mistake internal anxiety for exterior danger, and in turn to escalate rather than resolve.โ (from Conflict Is Not Abuse by Sarah Schulman. highly recommend it if youโre interested in having better dialogues and feeling less defensive in your life)
conflic is not abuse is an abuse apologist manifesto written by a pedophile :)
My job on the leftist commune will be to walk around all the bakeries with a .45 caliber handgun and choose which loaves of bread get turn into bagels by shooting the bagel hole through them.
Actually nepotism is when your wealthy mutuals (hight follower count) reblog your shitty post and it gains a huge amount of notes that it does not deserve.
Lool i deleted this right after posting but apparently my wealthy mutuals reblogged and it blew up?? And i didnโt even notice because it didnโt show up in my notifs!!
i know so many of us have been trained since a young age to be so accommodating as to fear ever expressing an opinion, but as we get older we need to understand that being “accommodating” to the point of total indecisiveness is a very uncomfortable way to go through life, for you AND those around you. it’s ok to have an opinion on something. it’s ok to make a decision. your friends won’t hate you if you’re the one to end the “where do you want to eat” “oh anywhere is fine with me” discussion by suggesting a restaurant. you’re not high maintenance if you say, “noon is more convenient for me” when someone asks you what time you want to hang out. make decisions, have opinions, be part of the planning process, understand that you’re not being inconvenient, you’re just contributing.
